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6 Reason You Are Experiencing an Unexpected Increase in Your Sex Drive

There is no metric for measuring libido, says Searah Deysach, longtime sex educator and owner of Early to Bed. So there’s really no universal baseline for what counts as a normal, she says.

Now, can you have your own personal “normal”? Yes, says Deysach.

“But even that’s a range, because there are so many actors that can cause your personal libido norm to shift a little — or a lot — to the left or right.”

These include:

  • age
  • relationship status or interactions
  • sleep, diet, and exercise
  • schedule
  • mood and mental health
  • hormones, medication, and physical health

What Can Cause an Unexpected Increase?

Feeling sexually insatiable? There are a few common culprits for the climb.

Your Stress Levels Are Lower

This is a big one. “If you’re going through a time of low-stress, your libido will likely increase,” says McDevitt.

She says that’s why “vacation sex” is such a Thing.

Your Mental Health Is Better Than Ever

According to clinical sex counselor Eric M. Garrison, author of “Mastering Multiple Position Sex,” being raised in a sexually-repressive household or religion can train folks to “turn off” — or at the very least disconnect from — their libido.

For these folks, going to a sex therapist or mental health professional to work through this shame can result in reconnecting with their sexual urges.

He says this can make folks feel like their sex drive is higher.

You’re Having Good Sex

Thanks to your hormones, the more you have (good) sex, the more your body craves it.

So if you recently started sleeping with someone (or a new sex toy!) that rocks your world, it’s natural to want sex more often, says Dr. McDevitt.

You’ve Been Exercising More

“Some people find that they want sex more often when they exercise regularly,” says Dr. O’Reilly.

This could be credited to a number of things:

boosted confidence
reduced stress
improved sleep

You Swapped or Stopped Certain Meds

Certain medications like antidepressant, SSRIs, birth control, and beta-blockers (to name a few) are known to squash libido.

Finally adjusting to these medications can also result in a higher libido, says Garrison.

And so can going off these medications. Friendly reminder: don’t go off any medication without talking to your healthcare provider first!

You’re at Your “Horny” Spot in Your Menstrual Cycle

Most menstruating humans have a “horny” part of their cycle — usually right before, during, or right after ovulation.

So if you or your partner is ravenous a few days a month, it’s the hormones talking!

When a High Libido Is Actually a Problem

“Your high libido is a problem if either you think it’s a problem, or if your high libido is leading you to act in a way that interferes with the rest of your life,” says Garrison.

If, for instance, you’re skipping work, cheating on your partner, blowing your savings on sex gadgets to meet your sexual impulses, or otherwise engaging in ~risky behavior~ as a result of your libido, that’s a problem.

In these instances, working with a mental healthcare professional is a M-U-S-T. They’ll help you come up with a game plan to regain control.

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